Having a broken heart and stepping into a relationship can be the most unfair thing you can do to yourself and the other person in the relationship.


Emotional insecurity, hurt, despair and self-doubt are only some of the feelings that can slowly seep into your soul and destroy your faith in love and relationships.

And being the one in love with a person who isn’t over their ex, is even more devastating.

In case you feel your significant other’s past still impacts his present life and in turn, your relationship, here are a few signs you need to check out.

1. The photographs and gifts

Your boyfriend still has photographs of his ex-girlfriend on his phone and still clings to things that was gifted to him by her when they were in a relationship. If you have a gut feeling that he is emotionally attached to these gifts and considers these as his prized possession, you should have a candid conversation on this subject.

2. ​Comparisons

Does your partner mentions the name of his ex-girlfriend or refers to his past life often? Does he compare your habits, personality fashion sense or anything else with their ex-girlfriend regularly? Well, it’s okay to talk about your ex-partner once in a while and share things about their past. However, it is a red flag for your relationship if talking about his ex-girlfriend has become a routine.

​3. Your dates

It is a negative sign for your relationship if your boyfriend prefers to go on a date to the same places he used to visit with his ex-girlfriend. It shows he is trying to follow the same old patterns and relive the old memories.

4. Being friends with ex

It‘s okay to be friends with your ex when you have completely moved on from your past and there is not even an iota of romantic feelings left. But if your boyfriend looks for ways to stay in touch with his ex-girlfriend, it might indicate he is seeking something more than friendship.

5. Ex’s family

It is okay to be cordial and polite with family members of your former partner but after a break-up, going out of your way to be a part of her family gatherings and functions is a bit unusual. It shows you are still attached to the family or aiming to be actively involved in their life for some specific reason.

6. Social media and friend circle

Do you see your boyfriend commenting on his ex-girlfriend’s social media posts too often than necessary? Or, he makes special efforts to stay in touch with their mutual friends and is eager to know what is happening in her love life. Well, we really do not need to emphasise what it might indicate.

7. The moment you speak up

The moment you bring up this subject and share your concern, your partner might try to change the topic of the conversation or shut you down. In case, he is not willing to open up on this topic and address your concern, take this as a hurdle to a successful relationship.