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5 conversation starters for reconnecting with an old friend

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Do you remember the days when you used to talk and laugh for hours sitting with your best friends in an empty classroom?
There were almost endless things to talk about, and time flew by as you chatted together.
But, when was the last time you had a long talk with that old friend of yours? If it’s been quite a while, read on!
Everyone’s busy. Due to hectic schedules, life changes, big moves, and more, people often lose touch with their pals.
We know talking to an old friend after a long time feels overwhelming, and a lot of people want to reconnect but it isn’t happening.
The reality is that people find it a bit awkward to get back in touch with their friend if they haven’t spoken for a while.

Although you have a temptation to talk to your friend, you might worry about how to start a conversation.


To help you out, here are some conversation starters to help you reconnect.
1. Start with something simple
Let’s make it simple and direct. After all, you were good friends once – and you can be again. You can follow any of the following expressions to strike up the conversation.

  • Hey, how’ve you been?
  • I haven’t seen you in ages!
  • I haven’t seen/talked to you for so long!
  • How long has it been since I last saw/talked to you?

2. Expand the topic

Ask about their current situation. Try “What have you been up to?” This question is a natural way to continue the conversation and ease you into a longer discussion.

3. Bring back good old memories

Bring up old memories while talking – it will give you both something to speak about where you can share common ground and interests.
4. Dig Deeper
Dig deeper and express genuine interest by asking follow-up questions to their responses. Use words like “how,” “when,” and “why” in your question.
5. End conversation with a plan
When you end the conversation, make sure you have made a plan for the next meet-up. You can consider following phrases to wind up the call or chat.

  • We should catch up soon. When are you free next?
  • We should get together. What do you think?
  • We should get coffee soon. What is your schedule?

We hope these tips were helpful! Now it’s your turn to start a conversation with a friend you haven’t spoken to in a while.

If you’re looking for a way to stay close with old friends online, try the Longwalks app. It has daily prompts that help you discuss meaningful topics and stay up to date.

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