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5 times you should never scold your child

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To make mistakes is a human behavior and scolding or retribution is a natural reaction of a parent’s way of correcting the mistakes of a child.


You find yourself losing your temper, shouting at your child, or acting in a way you believe could have been handled better when they misbehave.

But, there are times when you should be compassionate with your child instead of resorting to harsh disciplinary measures.

A few of them are mentioned below:

1. Disciplining child in front of others​

Refrain from scolding your child in public. In doing so, they can become less attentive to what you’re trying to educate them and more fixated on who is listening in on the talk. Reprimanding your child in front of others could make them feel awkward and ashamed, which could strain your bond. If you discipline children in public, make sure you’re being respectful and gentle in your words. Your child will learn that their behavior is unacceptable if you are persistent, stern, and courteous when enforcing discipline. They will also discover that proper behavior in public areas is expected of them.

2. Scolding a toddler aged 1-3​

For them to adjust to the new world, children at this age require a lot of love, care, devotion, and patience on your part. They may get more agitated at this age, which could throw off their sleep schedule. This could not have a long-term impact on them either. But avoid shouting at a toddler over and over again. Children are extremely impressionable at this age, and your behavior toward them makes an impression that may be hard to change in the future. To help your infant feel more connected to you and the safety and comfort that comes with being a parent, soothe the child, cuddle, play, and converse with them.

3. When they fight with their siblings​

If your children are fighting with each other, try to use affirmative words and short and clear statements about wrong behavior. Do not use force or scold them harshly as they will mimic this behaviour whenever an emergency knocks. According to a number of studies, children who experience regular spanking as young children are more prone to resort to aggressive behavior as a coping mechanism when they reach adulthood. When they first become parents, they may also strike or reprimand their child because this is the form of discipline they were given when they were younger.

4. Spilling things​

If a shattered glass or spilled milk caused you to lose your temper, work together to eliminate the threat. Teach them how broken glass might hurt them or anyone in the house and help them use a tray or carry a glass without spilling anything. Include your child in making amends for the mess they created, and participate in the process as well. When you become an active participant with children, they are more than willing to learn right from wrong

5. When they speak ill​

Although parents expect their kids to respect them, they occasionally overlook the reciprocal nature of respect. Yelling, using a harsh or angry tone of voice, or even making derogatory remarks to their children is one of the most frequent mistakes parents make when disciplining their kids for their language. One of the most important things to keep in mind while disciplining kids is to show them respect and ask for it in return. Consider how you would like to be addressed if you were resolving a disagreement with an adult, like a family member or coworker. Reach your child’s eye level and respectfully and gently (but firmly) address the issue at hand. Try not to lose your cool, no matter how furious you are.

Is it absolutely wrong to scold your child?​

The adage “too much of anything” applies to scolding as well. It may also be harmful if you have never reprimanded your child before. In the long run, a spoiled child might not be able to learn from you. Your child may rebel when you try to punish her later in life, perhaps when she is seven or eight years old. Parents should thus have assertive yet polite conversations about their children’s issues. Additionally, maintain composure before correcting youngsters and enforcing consistent, clear punishments.

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