While dealing with an angry partner one should be very careful of their behaviour.


Trying to de-escalate the argument by not reacting to their anger can help to fix things.

It is important to tackle the situation with calm and composed behaviour. Constantly demanding clarifications and passing remarks can tense the situation further.

Here we list down things one should NOT do while dealing with an angry partner.

1. Set healthy boundaries

Setting healthy boundaries becomes paramount when your partner is angry. Clearly outlining the limits is necessary as exceeding these limits escalates conflict and misunderstanding. Setting healthy boundaries helps better deal with the angry partner.

2. Try to de-escalate the argument

Passing constant judgments and demanding clarifications heats the argument. And so, one should try to de-escalate the argument by using ways and means to cope with the situation. A focus on calming the situation is much needed to end the conflict.

3. Be a patient listener​

Patient listening is the key to dealing with an angry partner. If both individuals try to force their perspectives and lay judgments without understanding each other’s concerns then there’s no space for understanding. Demonstrating empathy and offering a patient ear to the angry partner helps mitigate the heated situation to some degree.

4. Communicate openly​

One of the best ways to deal with arguments and conflict is to hold an open and talk with the angry partner. Instead of engaging in bickering and squabbles, communication helps both individuals come to achieve concord and forge a sense of understanding. Fueling up the fire with arguments does not yield any kind of clarity.

5. ​Understand the triggers

What causes your partner to react? This question is important to deal with. Understanding and reflecting upon the situations that cause anger can help deal with them. This involves understanding their emotional response and being less reactive and judgemental.