In today’s world, relationships are often seen as “Insta-worthy” – looking cute in photos, showing off in public, and playing the chase game until one person gets bored or loses interest.
But is this really the kind of relationship we want? The answer is no. A healthy relationship should be based on trust, love, respect, and open communication.
Communication is especially important, and it’s essential to talk about even uncomfortable topics. Doing so helps build a safe and secure relationship.
Here are five important topics to normalise discussing with your partner to strengthen your bond.
1. Balancing independence and togetherness
Healthy relationships require a proper balance between spending time together and having personal space. Everyone needs time and space to relax and enjoy by themselves while also having quality time with each other. It is important to normalise asking questions like “Do you feel like we’re spending enough time together?” or “How do you feel about the balance between our alone time and quality time together?”
2. Communication preferences
Every individual has a unique communication style and preference. It is beneficial to know how your partner likes to communicate in different situations to avoid unnecessary conflicts, miscommunication, and communication gaps. Try to normalise asking your partner questions such as, “How do you want me to talk to you when I’m upset?” or “Do you need space before we talk, or do you want to talk right away?”
3. How they feel about the relationship
Checking-in with your partner about how they feel in the relationship helps keep things healthy. Sometimes, some feelings or worries aren’t spoken out loud. Try asking questions like, “How do you feel about where we are right now?” or “Is there anything about our relationship that’s bothering you?”
4. Handling jealousy or insecurity
Jealousy or insecurity can be incredibly harmful and damage trust if you don’t talk about it openly and honestly. Asking your partner how they feel from time to time can help avoid bigger problems. Questions like “Do you ever feel insecure about our relationship?” or “Is there something I can do to make you feel more secure and safe in this relationship?” can be beneficial.
5. Financial expectations
Money can cause problems in relationships. Talking openly about money, your spending habits, and what you both expect can help avoid misunderstandings later. Ask questions like “How do you feel about our money situation right now?” or “What are your money goals, and how can we work on them together?”
