8 reasons why modern relationships don’t last & what to do about it



Modern relationships are not easy and there is no doubt about that. Things are a lot different than ever and our lifestyles are drastically different than those before us.

One of the things about modern relationships is that they don’t last and they easily fall apart.

In today’s day and age, so many people are not prepared to sacrifice and may not even know what that actually means. We think of love as something that should come easily.

We are taught our fears are a way to escape and avoid actually working to bond and form a connection with another person.

Then, we erase the chances of forming a relationship because we continue to play games and bask in our own fears, whereby, both people end up losing.

We all want a relationship without the work or risks involved in a real one-we want the hand-holding for a moment, we want the comfort for a moment, we want the affection for a moment, we want the attention for a moment, but we don’t want the work that is required to build a real relationship.

There are so a lot of possible reasons why modern relationships fail, here are 8 that might help you out:

1. They are less private 

Relationships are now a lot less private than ever. Couples tend to share details about their lives that should be kept private, even from their friends and family. People usually ruin things by judging them and that’s why privacy is a relationship saver.

2. Couple goals are ruining relationship goals

Nowadays many couples tend to get in relationships to gain social status and show that off on social media platforms. So basically happiness is measured by how much they seem happy together on Instagram and that is a horrible reason to want to have a relationship!

3. The technology between you

So many tablets and smartphones between the two of you. All this time you are spending online, you could instead invest in connecting, actually talking, and going places together.

4. The invisible distance

If your partner is not the first person you talk to about most things that concern you, then there is a distance that you should kill. You could be living in the same house, but very far apart. To kill this distance you should work hard to communicate and be part of each other daily life and talk about everything on your minds with no judgment what so ever.

5. Not enough personal space

Sometimes the problem might be that you aren’t giving each other personal space and that is a relationship killer. Everyone needs personal space and some time alone once in a while.

6. Not enough intimacy

Your relationship could be defined by the level of intimacy you share. If there isn’t enough intimacy the relationship won’t be emotionally satisfying for both of you. These needs work from both of you and it needs building a strong emotional and mental connection between you both.

7. Not enough appreciation

Modern relationships lack appreciation. This can make anyone lose their interest and passion that they had for the other person.

8. High expectations

This one is the reason why so many relationships fail before they even begin. High expectations that come from fairy tales. The best thing about life is that you never know what happens next and relationships should not be an exception to that.

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