Are you one of the many people that believe real love is so hard to find? Depending on what your idea of real love is, it may indeed be difficult to attain. The way that you form relationships may determine if real love is in your future.
Love is not a tangible object, so it isn’t something that we can actually grab on to. It is a feeling that occurs when two people believe that they want to be together and share intimacy.
This rarely happens instantly, even though individuals may say that they knew they loved each other the minute their eyes met. Real love is something that happens slowly and lasts for a long period of time, perhaps even for life.
In this article, we’ll be listing 8 reasons why real love may seems hard to find. Read on to know.
1. No perfect love
Finding a lasting relationship can be difficult, especially if you have an idea of the perfect partner in mind. It will be hard for others to measure up to your ideal since everyone has faults. Even if you do find someone that measures up to your ideal, your partner may decide that you don’t measure up to his or her own. When this happens, the search for the ideal partner begins all over again.
2. Expectations in relationships
What are your expectations when you enter into a relationship? Do you approach every relationship as if it were going to last forever, or do you let things develop slowly over time? Rushing into an intimate relationship may scare your partner away, whereas letting your partner get to know you first may lead to a more lasting relationship.
3. Love them and leave them
Loving and leaving people is never good, especially for the person getting left behind. If you do this frequently, you aren’t really ready for a mature loving relationship with anyone. In addition, depending on how small a town you live in, you may burn all your bridges and have no one to date. People may be afraid to form relationships with you if your reputation precedes you.
4. Love in the digital age
In the age of the Internet, people are expected to brand themselves in order to appear more attractive to others. Some may get to caught up in this personal branding that they lose sight of who they truly are. So when you meet someone in person for the first time after meeting online, you have to wonder if you fell in love with the true person or with an Internet persona.
5. Busy lives
Being busy has become a status symbol in today’s society. With people so busy, there is little time left over for cultivating a relationship to allow love to blossom. Unless people are willing to carve out time to fall in love, their relationships will likely stay superficial.
6. Changing norms
Marriage rates have steadily fallen within the last few years as millennials accept a different type of normal for relationships. Not everyone seeks out a “true love” since they don’t feel as though getting married and staying with one person forever is a necessary life goal.
7. Easy ending
As both genders enjoy more independence than in years past, modern singles may not feel the need to “couple up” for financial security as they once did. This results in fewer people actively looking for love – meaning fewer singles “on the market.”
8. Fear of commitment
Fear of commitment is one of the biggest problems among those looking for love – either their own fears or the fears of their partner. When one (or both) members of the couple are unwilling to commit to one another, it’s difficult to feel as though there is a strong love present.
