Marriage is a big deal, it is the ultimate commitment, and not everyone wants to get married.
If you want to get married, it can be devastating to learn that the man you love doesn’t want the same thing. Maybe he never wants to get married period, or maybe he just doesn’t want to marry you.
No one wants to waste their time on a dead end. No one wants to spend years upon years with someone who just isn’t–and maybe was never– on the same page.
To help you gain perspective and see more clearly, here are 7 definitive signs that he is never going to marry you.
1. He won’t give you a straight answer
He changes the subject whenever marriage comes up. And if he does address it, he only talks about it in a jokey, snarky way. You really have no idea where he stands at all, which is a huge red flag in a relationship.
2. He gets angry when you try to talk about it
When the topic of marriage or commitment comes up, he gets angry, defensive, and uncomfortable. At the root of it, he probably feels incredibly guilty. He knows–consciously or sub-consciously–that he doesn’t want to marry you, but he also doesn’t want you to leave, so he resents it when you put him in a position where he has to admit he can’t give you what you want.
3. He won’t be “official”
Forget marriage, if he won’t even commit to giving you a label and being your official boyfriend (or if you had to badger him into finally calling you his girlfriend), then he definitely doesn’t see you as his lifelong partner.
4. He doesn’t “believe in marriage”
He claims marriage is just a piece of paper… it doesn’t really mean anything… no good can come of it. Guys don’t speak in code; when he says something, believe it and don’t read into it. If he says he doesn’t believe in marriage, believe him!
5. He keeps you at a distance from his family and close friends
If you haven’t met his friends and family, that’s a huge red flag. If you have met his friends and family, but you don’t really know them, it’s a little less of a red flag but still a flag nonetheless.
6. He still doesn’t know…
You’ve been together for many years, maybe you live together, you know each other in and out…. but he says he just “doesn’t know.” What this really means is he knows… he just doesn’t know how to tell you.
7. He shuts you out
He won’t talk about problems with you. He withdraws and shuts you out. It almost seems like he’s about to break up with you. He doesn’t let you in and you don’t have a clue about his emotional world.
