Have you ever had a long-standing crush on a guy, but that one behavior swiftly made you lose all romantic feelings for him? It feels surprising yet also relieving. Doesn’t it?


Almost any woman’s feelings for someone can be turned off by certain behaviors.

We discussed this with 7 women, and they each shared one behavior in their dating partners that caused them to completely lose all romantic feelings for them.

Take a look:

1. Eating manners

“I went on a date with a guy at a restaurant. We placed our orders and were having a cute conversation. But as soon as the food arrived, rather than engaging in the conversation, he simply kept on gorging food. When he finished eating, he rubbed his hands on his jeans. All my feelings for him went away at that moment. As soon as we parted ways, he texted me asking when our next date would be, and I replied that it wouldn’t work.”

– Amahle, 25 years old

2. Too drunk before meeting

“I was meeting this guy for the first time and we had plans of getting drunk together. But when I met him, he was already drunk. He greeted me with “Hi! I am 3 bottles down”, to which I replied, “Hi, I am Lerato”. After that, I didn’t stay for too long.”

– Lerato , 23 years old

3. Problem with understanding consent

“I was in a car with this guy I found really interesting. We were on our way for a lunch date when, without telling me, he made a turn in the direction of his home. This was a very creepy situation which made me very uncomfortable. When I realized it, I stormed off and never spoke with him again.”

– Bonolo, 22 years old

4. Complaint box

“We were meeting for the first time. I was running 20 minutes late and he had to wait for a while. When we finally met, he kept complaining about it and my whole mood was ruined for the day.”

– Zandile, 32 years old

5. Mansplainer

“The date was going really fine. The weather was nice and we were having a nice walk after dinner. However, someway the topic of dowry came up and he began mansplaining me the idea of dowries and feminism. My romantic feelings for him at that moment quickly turned into feelings of annoyance.”

– Aneke, 21 years old

6. Ill treating the waiters

“We met at a fancy fine dining restaurant where we were chit-chatting. Then, to place the order, he started shouting at the waiters impatiently and kept calling out their names the entire time. I could see that all ten of the tables around us were staring at us, but he didn’t seem to mind. I was too embarrassed and had to ask him to calm down.”

–Nandi, 31 years old

8. Creepiness

“I was trying to learn more about him from him, but he read all my actions as signs to have sex with him. When I said no to sex, he kept saying, “You can touch me as I am quite open-minded”. He was a next-level creep.”

– Thandiwe, 29 years old

What was the biggest turn-off behavior for you? Share your thoughts with us by commenting on this article.