How to apologise to your best friend after a big fight

Best friends are each other’s support system, and at times they are closer to you than your biological family.

While we depend on them, all the time, for everything, there are times when this proximity can lead to silly fights.

Considering best friends are privy to each other’s secrets, the feeling of vulnerability is natural. During arguments and fights, things can get pretty tense.

While fighting with your best friend can be devastating, one can resolve differences with a little mindfulness.

It is important to repair your friendship as early as possible, especially if the argument or fight was over an insignificant issue. Not acting on time can lead to a bigger damage to your bond.

Here are steps you can take to repair your friendship after a noisy argument:

We all fear losing our people and this is the reason we may reach out too soon to one of the closest persons in our life. However, this can backfire if you haven’t had a chance to reflect on your feelings or the issue that caused the fight in the first place. Before approaching your friend, take some time to meditate, reflect and process your feelings.

Spending some time alone will make you realise your role in the fight. You may have escalated something small into a big thing or you may have over-reacted to something that was said with a good intention. Once you are not feeling angry anymore, decode your hidden feelings and find appropriate words to convey to your friend.

You may still be feeling angry at your friend for hurting your feelings or probably screaming at you. While you are apologizing to your friend accepting your mistake and your part in the fight, resist the temptation to immediately point out their mistakes. You may communicate your issues later on when you friend is in a better mood.

In order to resolve a fight, you may have to think things from your friend’s perspective. You may have to take into account that they may be hurt by your words. Acknowledge that you understand that and are open to working on the issues in the friendship.

Once both of you are willing to mend your differences, it becomes easier to find solutions. At this stage, effective communication can help heal. Express your love and remind them how important they are in your life. You can also suggest solutions to avoid issues in future.

They may not instantly accept your apology. But giving them sufficient time to think over your words is important.
If your intention is true, your friendship will be repaired in no time. If you truly value your friend, ego issues shouldn’t get in your way.